You don’t have to be alive for very long before people start dishing out advice… and honestly, you’ve probably heard a lot. Whether you’re a CEO or just starting a freelance career, the trick isn’t getting advice, it’s getting sound advice when it matters. Anyone can say, “I knew that wouldn’t work.” after you’ve done something that didn’t turn out quite the way you hoped.
What good is that? Once you’ve done it, you likely learned a lot from that experience. Having seen how it turned out, you probably have an opinion or two about how you might approach it to gain better results. Usually, the best advice helps us avoid pitfalls, or navigate challenging circumstances. There are as many opinions as there are people. If I need car advice, I’m not going to ask the baker. If I need financial advice, I’m going to ask someone who understands finances, not my mechanic.
When I need advice, it’s got to be something offering a better outcome than where I currently am. If you want solid advice, go to the people who are successful in the subject you’re seeking help. Listen to everything they say. Test it and see how it works for you. Not so long ago, I found myself in a mental loop that wasn’t taking me anywhere.
I felt stuck.
I was just realizing it was time to move away from the home where my husband and I had lived out our entire marriage. Dealing with his passing, the C-19 event, running a business and ultimately having to move from a restless and volatile neighborhood, were becoming a lot to deal with on my own.
Then, I met Crystal Simmons of Crystal Clear Purposes in a networking group. She gave her elevator pitch, and I felt a connection with her immediately. She is so chill! Even though we had never spoken to each other before, it felt like we had known each other a very long time.
Warm, engaging, and honest, her questions show that she cares in a way that makes you glad you know her. Crystal was a calming influence and a sympathetic ear; she’s a deep listener. She led me through a series of questions that helped me find the root of the issue. When so much is happening at once, isn’t always easy to know where to start. She didn’t claim to have all the answers, but asked questions in a way that gave me space for my mind to create solutions. She knows what questions to ask that help me think of better conclusions.
After our first session, I had a break through.
Between the two of us, I recognized blind spots. That helped me arrive at several practical steps to take and move forward. Not only did it reduce the stress, it gave me a clearer perspective, which helped me stay on track until I crossed my biggest hurdles.
Talking with her is like talking to your dearest friend, and she checks in with you to make sure you’re following along, and doesn’t leave you stranded. I can’t recommend her highly enough. You can find her here on LinkedIn, or Instagram.
Where have you gone to find answers when nothing else is working? Share your experience with us in the comments box below. Until next time, have a beautiful week!